Fun Monday home
Thanx Nekked Lizard Adventures for putting Fibi into fun!!!
Kitten’s orders this week were, “I think it would be neat to hear about the story behind your home and the road you live on.” I fought with myself all week on whether or not to participate and what to say. I like to keep upbeat, but I also keep it real, so you may want to skip it.
This week’s assignment was harder for me than I imagined it would be. I have only lived in the duplex I do since March and we plan on moving again in March so there’s really no ties here.
The subject of houses hurts. We put everything we had, including blood, sweat and tears (we built it with our hands - framing, siding, electrical, drywall, hardwood and tile flooring, etc) into that house in the photo and we weren’t able to keep it due to that fact that, well life sucks. I’m proud of all the hard work we did. We built a 3000+ sq ft house in 7 months. It takes a lot of contractors longer than that. And we passed every inspection with flying colors. The inspector said we did better than most contractors. I told him it was because we cared about it, we would be living it in and we wanted it to last.
I was diagnosed with cancer about 2 weeks after we moved into it. We have insurance and my husband makes enough money that we could not qualify for any assistance. We‘re in that sucky middle. It absolutely sucks when you are doing everything you can and are still drowning. We have thousands of dollars we are still paying on in medical bills (not credit card debt, or loans, just medical). Thousands of dollars for my life, for surely without treatment I would be dead now. With having to pay them we had to give up our house. We could have waited I suppose until they took it from us but that would have been to nerve racking. We cut our losses and well . . . I can’t say more, it makes me cry and feel guilty. I’m trying to look forward because looking back hurts too much.
Maybe I should have just set this one out. I’m sorry I didn’t stay upbeat with this post. Come back tonight and I’ll show you some birds
Lisa, i'm awake MUCH later than normal and just read your Monday posting.
first things first THANKS for the card/message. it meant the WORLD to me.
AND i SO get where you are right now. my only request is that you refrain
from apologizing when you post something that you don't consider *upbeat*.
my gut tells me that many join me in not only surrounding you (sans pity -
rather with LOVE and HOPE) but celebrating you as well.
one never knows how/when/if we touch others, much less make a dent in the
world. well gal, rest easy - 'cause you do. sure, everybody's got a
story. thanks for sharing yours in such a healthy and healing way. it's
an honor to be a witness to your magnificantly significant life. i look
forward to the birds of tomorrow and to simply standing with you.
Pretty home!!! But no snow for me please! I'll come visit later after the
wintry season is over. LOL
Homes are so important to us, so don't apologise for telling your story. I
really hope you are doing well with your treatment, and I'm so sorry you
had to lose your home. Take care.
I know it hurt to lose your house but not nearly as much as it would have
hurt your family to lose you! You already knew that, huh? OK, how about a
house is just a house, a mom makes it into a home? You already knew that,
huh? OK, how about you're right - sometimes it just sucks! Glad you're
here!
I'm sorry I made you sad. But You did a fine job. Sorry yall had to go
through all that also. Your story was about your home. I'm so glad you beat
cancer! That just puts a cherry on top of your story!
Life is sometimes very cruel, not only you suffer but you have to pay for
it ! I can very well imagine that mentioning your house hurts, but I think
it is better that you are alive for your family in a flat or something else
then dead in a house ! You are still very young and maybe some day you can
built another one.
Rats! I forgot all about FM!
You're right that sure sucks, better luck next time.
You were worth it. If this post did nothing else - it just made up my mind
about cancer insurance. I'm calling AFLAC ---- They gave me the spiel
last week -- Thanks for making up my mind
I'll second what everyone else has said and just add that although your
current house is not your "dream house", from reading your blog, I know it
is a warm and loving home for your and your family, and that, in itself, is
a dream come true, I'm sure.
another reason to be thankful for good health! We forget the outcome of
having a serious illness - the bills.
That situation really stinks, but you are SO worth it.
That is a beautiful house. You did an excellent job building it. I'm so
sorry you had to give it up, but thank the Lord you're still here. The
future will bring better things, especially to a family who works so hard
and does the right thing.
oops, forgot my link
Hi Lisa! I've been too busy to keep up with the Fun Mondays. Maybe I can
get back into it next week. I'm sorry to hear about your beautiful house,
but your life was (and is) worth so much more. I know it may sound cliche,
but wherever you live, it's a home because love makes it that way, be it a
big, beautiful house or a trailer!
Houses are things. People are what make life precious! And I know it
must sadden you to have to leave the house you put so much work into - but
having you around is worth SO MUCH MORE!
Well that experience is lousy. It's hard to walk away from your dream home.
I know cuz I had to, also. Ours was because of a landslide not as serious
as yours. I do hope for you that you find a place you can call home and
stay in for a long time...
:-( I never heard that story... I'm glad you made the decision that you did
but I'm so sorry about your house...DON'T feel guilty... maybe that wasn't
the right house for you anyway..
I'm sorry you lost your home. I have no real words I know that would make
it better. What I do know, is you appreciate life much more and the
material goods less.
Lisa, I'm fairly new to your blog and I had no idea you had been through
this. My biological mom died of cancer when I was 5. My dad remarried
before I turned 6 and our family struggled financially for a very long time
due to medical bills. But things eventually got better. I will be saying
some prayers for you and your family. I hope you get a dream home even
better than your last one. I'm glad you shared your story - don't
apologize for it at all.
Lovely home. I do NOT like snow.
I am so sorry you lost your beautiful home it must be heart breaking to
remember the love sweat and tears you put into building your home. I don't
really understand the way your medical insurance works but it doesn't sound
a very fair system to me.
I don't know what to say except you're definitely worth more than whatever
you lost materially. Your family could not stand to be without you. Of
course you know that. I hope you get back everything you lost and more
very soon.
oh hon, i had no idea. but i will echo the other commenters. your life is
infinitely more valuable than any material possession. even if it hurts to
think about it.
There is no reason you should feel guilty! You have your life and that is
so much more important to your family and friends than any silly house. It
sucks to work so hard for something and have it snatched from you, but you
have what is truly important and there is so much to be thankful for in
that. Perhaps one day you will build an even better house and you'll look
back on the first one as your "practice house"!
Oh Lisa I just want to hug you! You and your family built a beautiful home.
I am sure that you are very proud of what you accomplished together. I am
so sorry that you could not continue to live there. Home is where the heart
is and I get the feeling you are the heart of your family.
Life is full of ups and downs. Please do not be sorry for not being upbeat.
We wouldn't be real if we did not share the down times too.
I can't say how sorry I am that life turned out that way. I can't imagine
what you are going through. We are so fortunate here to have our
healthcare system. You should be proud of your accomplishment, and it is
okay to cry over the loss of it. You have given me the gift of feeling
extremely fortunate. Thank you for sharing about your house.
Ok, I'm pretty late reading this I know, but I still had to comment. Don't
ever apologize for your feelings! We are all happy and sad and that's who
we are. I'm glad you are still with us, house or not. I'm sure your
family would rather have you than the house! I'm hoping 2008 is a turn
around year for you.