positive shmositive
Label me irked! I received the following comments to my Oncologist Appointment entry and they have me in a very negative mood. I figure everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I'm a lover not a fighter so I generally ignore any negativism. But I have been sitting here simmering ever since I read these and I decided to let it out. This person found it best to just be called "Aquarius", which is also kind of funny since it's my sign too.
Every step I have taken in my life has led me to this place. This is as true of you as it is for me. To change your situation you must not keep repeating the steps which brought you here. Earlier in your blog you mentioned Positive Thinking and how hard it was to do. If it was easy wouldn't everyone apply it. People don't want to be drug addicts, alcoholics, criminals, poverty-stricken or suffering. People want to be good because that is the only thing which brings inner peace.
The reason Positive Thinking doesn't work for most people is because you are trying to change your conscious thinking. If you are trying to look on the bright side when your world is falling apart around you, its nigh impossible to change your thinking.
Peoples problems stem from deep rooted negative beliefs in their subconscious minds.
There is a clinical way to change these negative beliefs and so change your future and your world completely.
The first step is to remove ALL the negative words and phrases which infect your thinking. I lost count of the negative words in your blog. You must deliberately avoid such words and phrases in your speech, writing and thinking. Negative words include those which may cause fear at a subconscious level, for example - oncologist or even doctor.
Repeating positive phrases to yourself or praying is very helpful as long as they don't include negative words.
Don't say things like 'I will beat this cancer' as the only word the subconscoius will hear(because of the fear vibrations surrounding it) is 'cancer'; rather say 'I am becoming whole and perfect'.
Be transformed by the renewal of your mind!
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Especially the word Chaos!
That is the opposite to order and harmony.
While preaching positive thinking over and over I feel this person is jabbing me at every opportunity. Obviously this person believes that my choices have caused my cancer which is not true. I have led a very boring mundane life and my choices did not lead to my cancer. What a mean thing to imply.
To remove all negative words from my vocabulary would mean I would have children who walk all over me because they never heard the word "no". It would mean that I wake up daily dreaming of sunlight and daffodils and would have to pretend the raindrops and weeds don't exist. And honestly, I'm the I'm pretty good at over looking weeds and morons, walking around with a smile and all-is-well, always looking on the brightside, only letting it out here.
I don't have to avoid any words. This is my blog, my therapy if you will, for all the thoughts going through my head and no one makes you read it. I hope that other people going through what I have will realize all their feelings are okay and that they too can work through them and led a productive life. I have strived to be honest with every part of it, like it or hate it.
Cancer, doctor, and oncologist are a part of my life and to avoid those words because you deem them too negative would be burying my head in the sand. Believe me, I have wanted to bury my head and pretend these things haven't happened but to do so would open me up to having to go through it all again. You have obviously never experienced cancer. Walk in my shoes.
I happen to like the word chaos. If you lived in a house with 5-6 teenagers you would truly know chaos. I named my blog long before I ever had cancer. Through all the chaos in my life I am still here, and generally happy and the word chaos most definitely describes our house over holidays, but that's a good kinda chaos, don't you think?
